LIfe at High Altitude in Colorado

May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds.

-Edward Abbey, naturalist and author (1927-1989)

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

A Tribute

Our friend, Frank, died on July 21. He was one of my Husband's best friends. Frank was an athlete, a philosopher, a listener, and a learner. He was a kind and admirable man. On the last night of his life, he became agitated, wanting to speak to my husband. His wife called, and Bob got on the phone. At first, Bob couldn't understand what Frank was trying to tell him, but suddenly, quite clearly, Frank said,

"I'm on the bike."

Those were the last words he uttered to anybody. 
Frank died at dawn the next morning, in his own bed, surrounded by his family.
We imagine him pedaling into the sky, waving goodbye to all of us.
The thought makes us smile through our grief. 


Frank and Bob Winter 2011, Breckenridge Ski Area
There are stars whose radiance is visible on Earth though they have long been extinct. There are people whose brilliance continues to light the world though they are no longer among the living. These lights are particularly bright when the night is dark. They light the way for humankind. - Hannah Senesh, poet, playwright, and paratrooper (1921-1944) 

Thank you to my Blog Friend, Tammie, who sent the quote to me. 

45 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of your friend.

    As someone with a love affair with bicycles, something in me pulses with solidarity at Franks final words. Hearing about such a loss never makes me smile...but I'm smiling...I think there's a Frank Star out there.

    Hugs to you and Bob.

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  2. I am so sorry; Frank's absence will leave a hole in your hearts. Your tribute was beautiful and what an honor for your husband to have heard his last words.

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  3. Im so very sorry to hear of your loss Barb. To you and your husband
    My condolences
    Lovely image of the Sunset .
    The quote is so beautiful Barb.
    Blessings to you all.

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  4. It can be so sad to say goodbye to our loved ones....
    This quote somehow makes it easier, the thought that they remain lights in our lives and live on through all they have touched. It was so perfect how the quote presented itself in a timely way.
    light to you and yours~

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  5. Barb,
    so sorry to hear of the loss of your & Bob's dear friend. Seeing him on the slopes of Winter this year tells me it must've been rather sudden. Though it is a part of life, I never quite deal with death well, loss is such a difficult thing, particularly of those near & dear to us. I do absolutely love that quote, and it seems quite fitting for the tribute to your friend.

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  6. I'm so sorry to hear about Bob's friend Frank. I can't imagine what your husband must have felt knowing Frank's last words.
    It sounds like Frank knew where he was going. Bless him.
    Love Di ♥

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  7. Luckely you mention that the picture was taken in the winter. Here in Europe it can't stop raining. I almost thought that it was snowing again.

    Greetings,
    Filip

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  8. My condolences to you and your husband and to your friend's family. Another star in the sky!

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  9. A wonderful tribute in words and photos, Barb. Thanks for sharing his last words. That is the way I have always hoped we would fly away.

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  10. I have tears in my eyes writing this. Such a friendship is a rare thing... beautiful post, Barb.

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  11. I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your husband. I lost a good friend many years ago and know just how difficult it can be. I can't believe he was out skiing this past winter and now he is gone. We must treasure everything life offers us every day, because tomorrow may be come. Carol

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  12. I am so sorry for your loss of a dear friend. Your husband must have been so special to him that he wanted his last words to be heard by him.
    How sweet that he could leave you with a smile and wonderful memories.

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  13. I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear friend. Your husband and Frank must have had a very special bond. I love how he said he was "on the bike." I remember my father saying he was on the train just before he died. To me it conveyed he was on a journey, and that even though he was leaving us, he was ok.

    Your tribute is touching and poignant.

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  14. I am very sorry for your friend’s loss.
    It is very sad to say good by to our beloved ones.
    The last of his word “I am on the bike” makes my eyes tears.

    ....I am the soft stars that shine at night.
    Do not stand at my grave and cry;
    I am not there, I did not die....
    (From A Thousand Winds)

    I am thinking of you, Barb and Bob.

    Tomoko.

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  15. It's very moving that Frank would speak his last words to his best friend, your husband. I sense, as you do, that his message might truly have been that he was on his way.
    It is so very tragic and frightening to lose such a good friend and I'm glad that you have something to smile about, through your sadness.

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  16. A very lovely and touching post, Barb. I'm sure anyone knowing your friend Frank would find great comfort in your words, I hope you and Bob do likewise.

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  17. So sorry to hear of your loss. What a gorgeous quote - he sounds as if he is one of those bright lights.

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  18. A beautiful quote, Barb. I feel your sorrow, and yet the lightness of his passing must be of some comfort to you, - a lovely image of death, - riding a bike into eternity...

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  19. Barb, I am sorry for your loss yet can imagine Frank riding his bike into eternity.

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  20. Oh Barb, I am sorry for your loss. What a really touching post. Sending lots of love, Milena

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  21. What a great tribute to Bob. I'm glad he got to say what he wanted to your husband.

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  22. I am so sorry, Barb. My condolences to you, to your husband and to your friend's family.

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  23. There are people who emit a light that warms the hearts of those around them. To hear this episode, I understand Frank must have been the one and still will keep people's hearts warm with his final words. The light of Frank is sorely missed. I'm so touched and sad at the same time.

    I am with you, Bob and Barb.
    Yoko

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  24. So sorry to hear of the death of your friend. Sounds like you have many good memories.

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  25. I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a beautiful tribute to your friend Frank. His last words make me smile even though I didn't know him. He's a bright star, indeed!

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  26. I'm so sorry for your loss, and for your husband's. Hoping you continue to find comfort in your friend's last words, as well as in the memories of the light he brought into your lives.

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  27. It is all around us. So it seems. I am so sorry Barb. It has been too long since I visited and I just today, read 3 weeks worth. Within a week there has been 3 tragic deaths of someones spouse. Life is so fragile and I sometimes become a little overwhelmed with it and want to do nothing...which I know...is not healthy. I can't tell you how many times I have hugged and cuddled and told my sweetheart how much I love him the past 2 weeks. Then I get up each morning put my feet on the ground and God for another day together...

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  28. I am so very sorry that your friend passed away. I have to say, however, that the quote "I'm on the bike" made me smile. I imagine that those might be my last words too.

    That is a beautiful quote that I'll remember. It sounds like it truly applies to your friend.

    I am thinking of you and Bob.

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  29. What a gift, his last words to Bob. The loss of a friend and companion is always hard but to be left with the image of him riding on must ease it a bit.

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  30. I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear friend.
    His last words "I'm on the bike" makes me feel his kindherted for you. And your tribute is so beautiful. He will keep warming your heart.

    sarah.

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  31. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your husband will treasure that last conversation they had.

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  32. leaving this world in bed surrounded by family and uttering words that make best friends smile is about the best one could hope for. sorry for your loss, but glad there's a smile in there-

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  33. A lovely tribute, Barb. Sorry for your loss.

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  34. It is so difficult to lose a close friend. Beautiful tribute to him. I will be thinking of his family and yours in the days ahead.

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  35. I am sorry for your loss. What a beautiful quote Tammie sent you!

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  36. Hi Barb,
    Yes, Tammie's quote is just right ~ such comforting words ~

    I still feel the radiance, warmth and love of close family and friends that have passed on before me...
    I know that your friend's presence in your life and in Bob's will forever be felt in heart and soul.

    Love is a powerful thing ♥
    *blessings*
    ~Maria

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  37. Lovely post and tribute to your friend Frank, sounds like a life well lived and loved:)

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  38. Tears...so sorry, Barb. The picture evokes what their friendship must have been.

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  39. Those who are gone live on in all whose lives they have touched. A piece of Frank will always be alive through you.

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  40. I'm on the bike... such a simple statement. You honor him with your post... sending blessing.

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  41. May Frank's light continue to shine for you and others. The image of him pedaling off into the sky makes me smile, too.
    He must have been a wonderful person. I'm sorry he has left the world for that great bike trail in the sky.

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